On-Mind In Words

This is one of the days when I decide to do something and end up doing completely different. Intending to study all day today, I am actually enjoying the rain, having my third cup of coffee and watching Bridget Jone Diaries. In addition to that I have also decided to write more often than I used to. No particular topic to write about today. Just a bunch of random thoughts.

1. If things are to go wrong, they will- Everything; good or bad happens for a reason. I’d like to believe in the greater good and that eventually everything that happens will lead to something good. So if you feel everything is wrong, then just hang in there. The night is darkest before dawn. Something nice will surely turn up. Be positive

2. No one can tell you what to do and what not to- People think different from each other. It is not necessary that one has to approve of the others actions. But this does not give one the freedom to do something that annoys everyone else.

3. If you expect to be heard, then learn to listen- The art of listening is a virtue. It is always better to take a step back and listen carefully and think about something before jumping to a conclusion about anything. Take a minute to actually listen to what the other person is saying and the perspective they are coming from. I assure that 90% of conflicts can be resolved without any yelling or name calling.

4. Every action can be explained when it is done but may be not after- People do stupid things and make wrong choices at various points in life depending on how stupid they were at that time or how the circumstances were. No one is perfect, not even you, so dont judge someone else’s actions. In retrospect, everything seems wrong but being in their shoes at that time is a totally different situation.

5. You will miss on the subtle happiness in life if you take life way too seriously- I have learnt this the hard way. Small things like seeing a baby smile, watching the rain, listening to your fav music, eating your fav icecreamspending time with your loved ones are priceless. We are so engrossed in work and in ourselves that we forget about the things that define us. Take time out for things that you love to do. If not anything, they will revitalize your energy to get back out there and keep moving.

6. Express love to your loved ones once in a while- It will not kill you to tell someone how much you love them once in a while. It not only makes the other person happy but in turn it will make you happy, seeing them happy. A little appreciation does wonders to any relationship.

7. Learn to let go- Life is too short to hold any grudges. Forget the bad memories and choose to remember the good ones. Thinking bad and remembering  the moments that hurt you will only make you miserable. Just move on and add some good memories. Keep smiling

8. You choose how you want to be- Happy? Sad? Content? Dissatisfied? It all depends on you. Choose and take actions towards what you want to be. Work towards what you want and if you are sincere in your efforts, you are bound to see the results one day or another. Patience is the key.

9. Don’t be a stick in the mud always- It is good to have set ways of doing things and sticking to your beliefs. But it is also equally important to embrace change. I do not say compromise on your values but be flexible enough to atleast consider new ideas. We are surrounded by people of different cultures and backgrounds and it is unfair to expect everyone to work around your belief system. Be open to other perspectives. It does not hurt to look through someone’s eyes for once.

That is all for now. Adios !!!!